Books on Leadership and Family Systems

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Leadership Books


I think it would be helpful for an eldership to read three or four pages of “Biblical Eldership” at each elders’ meeting. Study, discuss, and implement the helpful principles discussed in this book.

Biblical Eldership:  An Urgent Call to Restore Biblical Church Leadership, by Alexander Strauch
PART ONE—BIBLICAL ELDERSHIP
1.  Pastoral Leadership
2.  Shared Leadership
3.  Male Leadership
4.  Qualified Leadership
5.  Servant Leadership
PART TWO—DEFENSE OF BIBLICAL ELDERSHIP
6.  Bible-Based Leadership Structure
PART THREE—THE EXPOSITION OF SCRIPTURE
7.  The Acts of the Apostles:   Acts 11:30; 14:23; 20:17-38; 21:17-26
8.  Paul’s Letters to the Churches:   1 Thessalonians 5:12, 13; Philippians 1:1
9.  Paul’s Instructions to Timothy:   1 Timothy 3:1-7; 3:10; 4:14; 5:17-25
10.  Paul’s Instructions to Titus:   Titus 1:5-9
11.  Peter’s Instruction to the Asian Elders:   1 Peter 5:1-5
12.  James’ Instructions to the Sick:   James 5:13-15
13.  Hebrews:  Obey Your Leader:   Hebrews 13:17
PART FOUR—RELATED TOPICS
14.  Appointment of Elders
15.  Elders and the Congregation

When God Builds a Church:  10 Principles for Growing a Dynamic Church, by Bob Russell
1. Truth: Proclaim God’s Word as Truth and Apply it to People’s Lives
2. Worship: Worship God Every Week in Spirit and in Truth
3. Leadership: Develop Christ-Centered Leaders Who Lead by Example
4. Excellence: Do Your Best in Every Area of Service
5. Faith: Be Willing to Step Out with a Bold Faith and Take Risks
6. Harmony: Maintain a Spirit of Harmony
7. Participation: Expect the Congregation to Participate in Every Area of Ministry
8. Fellowship: Continually Practice Agape Love for One Another
9. Stewardship: Give Generously of God’s Resources as a Church and as Individuals
10. Evangelism: Commit Enthusiastically to Evangelism as Your Primary Mission

Books on Family Systems

Leadership can be condensed to self-leadership.  The only person I can control is me (1 Corinthians 9:27; Joshua 24:14, 15).  These books have helped me work on me. I start with the practical, then list three that deal with the theory.

Leaders Who Last:  Sustaining Yourself and Your Ministry, by Margaret J. Marcuson
1.  Lasting Leaderhip:  Is It Possible?
2.  Take Responsibility for Yourself
3.  Know Your Church’s Story
4.  Know Your Own Story
5.  Think in Threes:  Triangles and Leadership
6.  Know Your Purpose
7.  Understand Money
8.  Lead and Do Not Panic
9.  Stay Connected
10.  Say Your Prayers

Congregational Leadership in Anxious Times:  Being Calm and Courageous No Matter What, by Peter L. Steinke
Part 1     The Leader’s Presence
1.  Anxious Souls
2.  The Balancing Act
3.  The Nonanxious Presence
Part 2     The Leader’s Functioning
4.  Holy Tissue
5.  Influencing the Emotional Field
6.  The Essential Edge
Part 3    The Leader’s Challenges
7.  We Versus They
8.  Rocking the Emotional Boat
9.  To Challenge or to Survive
Postscript     People of the Charm

Healthy Congregations:  A Systems Approach, by Peter L. Steinke
Part 1.  Wholeness
1.  Life Is All of a Piece
2.  Ten Principles of Health
3.  Promoting Healthy Congregations
Part 2.  Disease Process
4.  Congregations at Risk
5.  Infectious Anxiety
6.  The Coconut Captivity of the Church
Part 3.  Health Resources
7.  The Higher Medicines
8.  The Immune Congregation
9.  An Ounce of Prevention Is Worth a Pound of Intervention

How Your Church Family Works:  Understanding Congregations as Emotional Systems, by Peter L. Steinke
Part I. Conceptualizing Emotional Processes
1.  The Concept of a System
2.  Anxiety and Reactivity
3.  Separateness and Closeness
4.  Stability and Change
5.  Clarity and Compassion
Part II. The Congregation as an Emotional System
6.  Do Not Go Gently in That Glob of Glue
7.  Being a Prophet Is Nice Work—If You Can Find a Job
8.  What Shall It Profit a Parish If It Gets over the Hump but Falls into the Abyss?
9.  Remembering the Future
10.  Believing and Belonging

Congregational Fitness:  Healthy Practices for Layfolk, by Denise W. Goodman
1.  Why We Fight
2.  Conflict:  Normal and Healthy or Destructive?
3.  Who Are We and Why Are We Here?
4.  Responsibility and Accountability
5.  Reducing Anxiety
6.  Repeal the No-Talk Rule
7.  Beware of Platitudes
8.  Clear the Decks
9.  Exorcise the Ghosts
10.  What about the Pastor?
11.  When You Need Help
12.  If Your Are Wounded
13.  The Rewards of Fitness

The Myth of the Shiksa and Other Essays, by Edwin H. Friedman
1.  An Interview with the First Family Counselor
2.  Secrets and Systems
3.  How to Succeed in Therapy Without Really Trying
4.  The Myth of the Shiksa
5.  Metaphors of Salvation
6.  The Play’s the Thing:  The Therapeutic Reversal as Psychodrama
7.  Empathy Defeats Therapy:  An Interview with Helen Gill
8.  The Birthday Party:  An Experiment in Obtaining Change in One’s Own Family
9.  Michief, Mystery, and Paradox:  Bowen Theory and Therapy

The following are books on the theory of family systems. My approach to these, as well as other books, is that I try not to learn very much. I look for a “mustard seed” that will give me insight into Biblical principles for dealing with myself and other people.

Generation to Generation:  Family Process in Church and Synagogue (The Guilford Family Therapy Series), by Edwin H. Friedman
Section I.  Family Theory
1.  The Idea of a Family
2.  Understanding Family Process
Section II.  The Families within the Congregation
3.  The Marital Bond
4.  Child-Focused Families
5.  Body and Soul in Family Process
6.  When the Parent Becomes the Child
7.  A Family Approach to Life-Cycle Ceremonies
Section III.  The Congregation as a Family System
8.  Family Process and Organizational Life
9.  Leadership and Self in a Congregational Family
10.   Leaving and Entering a Congregational Family
Section IV.  The Personal Families of the Clergy
11.  The Immediate Family: Conflict and Traps
12.  The Extended Family: Its Potential for Salvation

A Failure of Nerve:  Leadership in the Age of the Quick Fix, by Edwin H. Friedman
PART ONE:  GOING THE OTHER WAY
1.  Imaginative Gridlock and the Spirit of Adventure
2.  The Nationalization of a Neurosis:  Society in Regression
3.  Data Junkyards and Data Junkies:  The Fallacy of Expertise
4.  Survival in a Hostile Environment:  The Fallacy of Empathy
5.  Autocracy vs. Integrity:  The Fallicies of Self
PART TWO:  LEADERSHIP THROUGH SELF-DIFFERENTIATION
6.  Take Five
7.  Emotional Triangles
8.  The Power of Presence
9.  Crisis and Sabotage:  The Keys to the Kingdom
10.  The Presence of the Past

Family Therapy in Clinical Practice, by Murray Bowen
I.  Schizophrenia and the Family
1.  Treatment of Family Groups With a Schizophrenic Member (1957)
2.  The Role of the Father in Families With a Schizophrenic Patient (1959)
3.  Family Relationships in Schizophrenia (1959a)
4.  A Family Concept of Schizophrenia (1960)
5.  Family Psychotherapy (1961)
6.  Out-Patient Family Psychotherapy (1961a)
II.  Family Systems Theory
7.  Intrafamily Dynamics in Emotional Illness (1965)
8.  Family Psychotherapy With Schizophrenia in the Hospital and Private Practice (1965a)
9.  The Use of Family Theory in Clinical Practice (1966)
10.  Family Therapy and Family Group Therapy (1971)
11.  Principles and Techniques of Multiple Family Therapy (1971a)
12.  Alcoholism and the Family (1974)
13.  Societal Regression as Viewed Through Family Systems Theory (1974a)
III.  The Bowen Theory
14.  Family Therapy After Twenty Years (1975)
15.  Family Reaction to Death (1976)
16.  Theory in the Practice of Psychotherapy (1976)
17.  An Interview With Murray Bowen (1976)
18.  Society, Crisis, and Systems Theory (1973)
IV.  Applications
19.  Problems of Medical Practice Presented by Families With a Schizophrenic Member
20.  Toward the Differentiation of Self in Administrative Systems (1972)
21.  On the Differentiation of Self (1972)
22.  Toward the Differentiation of Self in One’s Family of Origin (1974)



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